Happy in my skin | The ordinary moments

I feel like today is a good day to talk about body image. Every day is a good day to talk about it, but for me – today in particular is perfect. Whilst at work, an elderly gentleman asked me if I was pregnant as I’d put on weight. I literally could have cried right there and then. This elderly gentleman has no mental issues – he is just an honest kind of guy. It really threw me. I’m not fat. I know I’m not fat. I don’t particularly think I’m chubby, but I have put on weight in the past year. After having Daisy I gained a tummy – it’s only normal after giving birth, right? I’m not one for exercising and so it never really disappeared. I have a terrible diet – I hate to admit it – but I eat rubbish. But it hasn’t bothered me. At least not until stepping on the scales a few weeks ago and noticing how much weight I’d actually gained. Throw in a nice ‘compliment’ from someone who’s brutally honest and I’m stuck thinking ‘Oh, crap. I need to lose some pounds’.

As a teenager i wanted to be incredibly skinny. I would go for days without eating so that I could lose weight. It was dangerous and a little bit of a rough time for me. But it happened. It happens. I don’t carry much self confidence and so weight has always been a bit of an issue for me. After having Daisy I discovered there’s more to life. I noticed I began to not think much about my weight. I was happy in my skin and I ate whatever I wanted to eat. Not only that, but I have to set an example. I don’t want my daughter seeing me unhappy in my own skin – I want her to believe that I believe I am beautiful. So I became comfortable. I didn’t worry about what I ate. If I wanted McDonald’s two days on the trot then I would do just that.

I need a healthier diet. Not to lose weight but to show Daisy how to eat. I give her the good stuff but then I eat rubbish. There’s going to come a time when she sees what I eat and be swayed by that. I’m not good at cooking – I remember when I had to ask my parents how to boil an egg – something that I never live down! But there’s always time for learning a new life skill and I think it’s something I need to attempt. I’m happy in my skin, even with the gentleman at work asking me if I’d put on weight. I want Daisy to grow up and know that she is strong, beautiful, smart and be completely happy living the truest version of herself.

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15 Comments

  • Jade @ Captured By Jade says:

    This is such a great post and I love your honesty – I’m in a very similar position to you at the moment in terms of what I’m eating, and having put a few pounds on etc. I was incredibly skinny pre baby, very much due to having a high metabolism, and then post baby that just entirely disappeared. I was adjusting to being mum, and also my new body, and I came to release that there is more to life than my body, weight, looks etc… But whilst that mindset is good, it also makes you a little complacent. I think it’s great that you want to make changes to your diet and set an example for your little one – who, by the way, is an absolute cutie and total spitting image of mum!

    Glad to have discovered your blog 🙂

  • Hayley Mclean says:

    Oh when will people learn…Unless you actually see her crowning in front of you, NEVER ask a woman if shes pregnant!! Beautiful photos though, you should be so happy in your skin. thanks for joining us at #SundayBest…hope to see you there again tomorrow! xx

  • Becci - The UnNatural Mother says:

    I think you look fab Honey and there is more to life than being a skinny Minnie . I have had to come to terms with that after 2 babies my perfect 10 body and pert boobs now just looks like a sack of potatoes. Pass me the cake so i can cry while eating it 🙂 #SundayBest

  • Sharon Parry says:

    Wow what gorgeous photos they really are stunning and yes it is so important to be confident with our own bodies. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday.

  • http://www.ordinaryhopes.com says:

    A great post. The best thing we can show our children is that we are happy with ourselves, especially as they will live their lives being told how much they look like Mummy. #KCACOLS

  • http://www.suburban-mum.com says:

    Beautiful photos! I agree with you, it’s important for our children to be comfortable in their skin and its up to us to show them isn’t it? It can be hard though when you’ve struggled with your own body image yourself. I’m trying to love myself a little more and not give myself a hard time about it but it can be tough!

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back again on Sunday x

  • Fiona - Coombe Mill says:

    Such lovely photos together, what a pretty pair you are!

  • Cathryn - Little Paper Swans says:

    Such a lovely post and those photos are just too cute. Twinning is winning haha!

    #SundayBest

  • Chantal Milk&Nappies says:

    Great post! I think it is so important to love yourself, and be happy in your own skin – I think I am slowly getting there! #SundayBest

  • https://ohjustmylittleblog.com/ says:

    Lovely positive attitude, and beautiful photos of both of you x #KCACOLS

  • darren coleshill says:

    Beautiful photos, she looks like a little cutie

    Thank you for linking up

  • http://likelovedo.com says:

    Lovely photos! Im glad your happy in your own skin! you look great and your little girl is adorable x

  • http://thefrenchiemummy.com/ says:

    You look stunning on the pics! And not fat at all to me! we all have this little tummy,I don’t worry too much about it. Good for being happy in your skin! We have already too much to handle as mums to worry as well about that kind of stuff! #SundayBest

  • www.3kidsnosleep.wordpress.com says:

    Lovely post. Your pics are beautiful 🙂 #SundayBest xx

  • Lianne says:

    Great post, and beautiful pictures of you and your daughter! I could relate A LOT with this! But good for you for being happy in your own skin yet realising you need to make small changes. #KCACOLS

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