Just be kind.
There’s not enough voices and enough words in the world that’ll make every individual human being be nice. But if enough people talk about it, and enough people live by it, then we can create a kinder place for our children to live. When someone is unkind, it’s easy to be unkind back. I’m guilty of it myself, I believe we all are. But I also believe that we all want our children to be kind to other children and receive kindness back. I find it scary nowadays when I hear about bullying happening in primary school. It’s something we expect in secondary school, but not primary school… surely? That being said – why should we expect it in secondary school? Why is it tolerated? Why are more children being bullied year after year? Why can’t people just be kind. It’s one of the easiest things to do in the world. It’s free, it’s effortless but it’ll change someones life.
It’s hard because no matter how many people, celebrities, television shows, movies and newspapers showcase this mentality, there’s always going to be a ring leader. There’s going to be one child that perhaps hasn’t had the best upbringing. That one child or teenager that thinks to be mean is to make people laugh. But if 9 children out of 10 have kindness engraved into their personalities, then these 9 people aren’t the children that’ll laugh. These are the children that will help pick another child up from the floor when they don’t feel they can carry on. These are the children that will put their arm around a lonely face and ask them what they enjoy doing. These are the children that realise the world can be a kinder place and kindness is easy.
We need to outnumber the bullies. As parents, this is in our hands. The more our children are kind, the more this mentality will spread. If you’ve been bullied in the past or have even been the bully yourself – put it behind you. Easier said than done sometimes, but the past is the past. It’s about creating a world where children feel they can enjoy school and time with their friends without fear, embarrassment or humiliation.
Secondary school was hell for me. I don’t even really like talking about it in depth because it makes me feel miserable. If there’s one place you couldn’t pay me enough money to go back to, school would be it. It was where my anxiety started, it was where I developed this fear of not being accepted and it’s where my confidence sank. Perhaps I should have grown a thicker skin – but it’s not always that easy. It was one of those times in my life where I didn’t even realise the effect it was having on me until afterwards. I look back and I can’t believe I even made it into school somedays. Kindness came to me after university. Kindness came to me when I had Daisy and realised that actually I needed to appreciate my own worth.
How to spread kindness
It’s not hard. It really isn’t. I try to do something kind every single day – no matter my mood. It could be something as small as sending someone a nice text, commenting on a photo of someone and telling them they look nice or letting someone pull out in front of me at a junction. I want Daisy to see me be kind and to see everyone around her be kind. I want her to pick up the attitude that kind is cool. Kind is the best. We should all be kind. One thing I love is when someone smiles at me in the street. A complete stranger. It makes my day and so I now try to do the same. I always had this fear that nobody would smile back, but 70% of the time, they do. It’s easy to be kind – we need to teach our children and be more aware of what’s happening when we are not around.
‘Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.’ – Franklin D. Roosevelt.